How I work with couples/ relationships:
I strive to create an accepting, respectful, non-judgemental space for you to begin to listen, hear and understand each other better. My hope is that together we will be able to deepen and strengthen the ways in which you understand each other and that you will become more aware of what helps your relationship and communication to function well. I will work with you both towards achieving a shared sense of aims.
I can only work effectively with you on your relationship where you each have some level of motivation and commitment to doing this work. I will need both of your agreement to attend and I will strive to communicate equally with you both and to allow time and space for both of your voices to be heard. Whilst a lot of our sessions may involve talking, my training in relationship counselling (accredited by the National Council of Psychotherapists) also enables me to share with you tools and resources which we can work on together and which you can take away with you to work on in between sessions.
Where necessary, I may be directive and firm with you both in order to prevent or halt any physical or verbal aggression and to avoid there being further damage in your relationship. We will agree together the boundaries which will need to be in place for the counselling to take place.
Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity:
I work in an accepting way with people of all genders and sexual minorities. I have experience of working with people who are LGBTQIA+, who practice consensual non-monogamy, kink, open relationships and/ or who are poly-amorous. My focus is on getting to know and understand each of you as unique individuals – and similarly in getting to know your relationship as it’s own unique entity. Together we can agree what it is important for us to focus on in counselling, what works well and what can work better.
What if we decide to end the relationship?
You may decide – or have already made the decision that you do not wish to stay together. Where this is the case, it can be helpful to use therapy to help this transition be as kind, respectful and mutual as possible. We can strive together to navigate this difficult period of time in a way which considers the feelings and needs of all parties involved, including any children who may be impacted.
How do we book an initial assessment session?
If you are both in agreement that you would like to meet with me to see if we are a good ‘fit’ working together please get in touch with me using the information on my Contact page. Details of how much I charge for couples/ relationship counselling can be found here.